Sunday, April 17, 2011

An Open Letter to Black Women from Catherine Jones of Memphis, TN

My Dear Black Sisters,

Not to make this into a black or white issue, but white women have been performing oral sex for ages, but never have they ,in my opinion, made a sexual act ever the more degrading as some black women are now doing. Some of "us" make me so ashamed to be a black woman, especially since we're usually always stereotyped enough as it is because of the dumb, stupid shit that a select few in our community do. You know what I mean.

I recently saw this "ad" online on someone's fan page and it just simply made me feel so fucking ashamed as a black woman.

"ATTENTION: Any SINGLE REAL MEN who want a woman that can cook homemade biscuits & gravy from scratch w/ ya choice of meat w/ mashed potatoes, butt naked except for an apron & a pair of 5" stilettos showing my pedicured feet, who's a HEAD HUNTER that can hum the National Anthem on ya balls please "like" this & hit my inbox! - Stillshining Haywood"

Is this what we're doing now? Advertising our oral sex skills just to pull men. This, to me, just SCREAMS desperation. Am I wrong to judge her, being that I'm just as much of a sexual woman as her or any other - the only difference being is that I wouldn't go around posting such pathetic "ads" as this one? I still believe in there being a time and place for everything. Is this what we're doing now, advertising oral sex skills as a prerequisite to pull in men? I mean, really?! Wow.

I'm beginning to feel like all of this oral sex that so many of our young black women are parading around and holding a banner of pride for is the start of the diminish of the black woman. I mean, I'm hearing and seeing more and more about how our black girls and women LOVE to perform this sex act. I can't believe it! I mean, this is something that used to be between a woman and her man, nowadays, it's something that 's being glorified with no tact at all whatsoever and this is seemingly the "woman" of choice. I never thought that I'd see the day...smh

I'm a young, vibrant and sexual woman, but I can't see myself hopping from page to page online, posting such a despicable "ad" as this one. Some may say that that's hypocritical and/or contradictory of me, but I see it as a very fine line between tact and common sense. I still believe in there being a time and place for everything. This is heartbreaking.

The whore is the new face of the black woman? Wow. This is what the babies have to look forward to? Wow. This is what our sons have to look forward to? Wow. This is what so many of our black Queens rallied, fought, raised so much hell over and died for? Wow. I'm sure that our ancestors and the women whom fought so hard through their blood, sweat and tears are rolling over in their graves right now as our young women are allowing themselves to be dogged out like this. Please don't be mislead, contrary to popular belief, this is nothing to be proud of. Are you really proud to kiss your babies and your mother with that mouth? Wow. More, would you want your own daughters to take pride in doing the things that you do with your mouth?

Black Women, what are we doing with ourselves? We house the Spirit of God in our vessels. Is this what you're really okay with inviting the Spirit of The Most High into? Really?! Wow.

Dear Black Woman, please wise up and have better standards than this. Don't let the lyrics of the gutter rap songs and images of the urban videos lulled you to sleep. We are the Mothers of Civilization, queens of this earth, for crying out loud. Please don't let these half baked, over sexed, half stepping ass men reduce you to nothing more than a suction cup and toilet for semen. We're better than this.
Sincerely,
Catherine Jones

Thursday, March 31, 2011

I Thought You Would Never Ask !

What a N*GGA needs to know when they ask what black folks need to do to come together to elevate "the race" . I thought you would never ask!
1. Follow the path and counsel of the elders( the true elders ) and do what is right.
2. Stop being so gatdamn lowdown to one another!
3. Stop chasing white folks every damn where and build up your own community and neighborhoods.  ( consider what SUBDIVISION REALLY MEANS while you're at it!)
4.Stop being the court jester for white folks seeking their damn approval and validation!
( Hell there is a reason for that stated below. DAMN SOME OF US ARE DUMB ASS N*GGAS!!!)
5. Stop spending what you don't have to impress some more broke ass folks who don't give a good  gatdamn about you , anyway!
6. Sit your ass down somewhere and THINK, and PLAN, and PRAY. ( yes I said pray because some of y'all damn fools have let white folks and a pack of stupid n*ggas tell you that a n*gga don't need God when up until affirmative action that is all your black ass had!
7. ABANDON this HIP-HOP , NEW JACK philosophy and value system and stop being whores, pimps, and mack daddies and being ruled by your penis and vagina!
8. LEARN HOW TO DO SOMETHING other than RAP, MODEL, PLAY BALL, and GO TO A DAMN PARTY or CLUB .
9. READ , READ, READ!! (Something other than a Zane or urban fiction book!)
10. HEAL YOUR OWN HOOD.This is for that n*gga who got one spoonful above a mouthful and lost his damned mind! You owe something to the people and place that made you who you are. HEAL YOUR OWN HOOD and support the merchants and institutions within it OR build them since we know so damn much. ( The reason the white folks stuff SEEMS so much better than ours is because we build and maintain it for them!
 Now what was that you wanted to know again?.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Switching and Ditching !

 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. Revelations 3:15-16

I am amazed at the loyalty that people show to their favorite sports team. To watch DIEHARD sports fans support thier teams makes us who profess to follow our beliefs look rather, well , WEAK!. Right here in Memphis the dividing lines that seperate Steeler fans, Cowboy fans , and even Laker fans have been drawn and their supporters do not take crossing the line too lightly! As a matter of fact, if you are in either camp and voice your opposition you might have to put your plate down,cover up your barbecue and be prepared to defend your position! (LOL). I have seen people proudly wearing the hats, shirts, shoes and other gear to proclaim their loyalty and let you know who's side they are on. Cars and trucks have even been customized in their devotion and dedication to these franchises. Wow!

So, we see that these DIEHARD sports fans are serious and do not SWITCH teams . Nor will you see them DITCH thier team, even when thier teams are not winning. SEASON after SEASON they are there to cheer their team to victory or with fervent hope say" Well , we will do it next week or get them next time!" Win , lose, or draw they hold fast to their team. As a matter of fact ,that LONE supporter could be outnumbered in a room full of folks who are rooting for the opposing team and he will STILL REPRESENT the team he believes in , despite ridicule and even when the odds are against his team. When everybody else is on the OTHER SIDE he does not SWITCH TEAMS. They can present their arguments for their side but he will not DITCH his team. If it is a sunny day he roots for his team. If it rains, sleets or snows he roots for his team. If their are FOULS and PENALTIES ,he roots for his team. Even through INJURIES, he roots for his team. He doesn't DITCH his team to be more popular or accepted , for favor or friends. When the last buzzer sounds he is STILL STANDING with his team!

Now are we LOYAL to the team or conviction we profess to have chosen? Or do we have several hats and jackets to conveniently change  according to the crowd we are in? Hmmmm. Do we stand up and and stand by what we believe or do we go along to get along? Some folks are just like chameleons and lizards! They change according to where they are and who they are with! They change depending on who will stand with them or not. They may even co-sign on what they know is not quite right to be liked by other folks who are just as fake as they are. So believers do you know which team you are on? If not you need to be very sure that you have chosen the right team? For those who claim to have chosen a team, win or lose REPRESENT your team ALL DAY , EVERY DAY and do it until the last buzzer sounds! NOW, WHOSE TEAM DID YOU SAY YOU WERE ON AGAIN!
Redd

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Slippery People ! (Saviour or Saboteur)

 Sabotage is a deliberate action aimed at weakening another entity through subversion, obstruction, disruption, or destruction. One who engages in sabotage is a saboteur.

 The need of some folks to be the big fish in a small pond is why the waters in our communities are murky and stagnated! Fear and insecurity that one of us may somehow outshine the other has been especially detrimental to black folk everywhere on every level. Those insecurities are the very reason that we continue to be pimped as a people.

 "Now who is the pimp?", you say.  I am so glad that you asked the question!  Keep in mind that many of our  black politicians, preachers, and public figures have done all but put us on the corner in a short skirt and six inch heels!  The pimp comes in the form of anyone who rises, not from his own efforts, but from the oppression of others through the suppression of the truth. They cause and promote  destruction by their deliberate obstruction of the use of the gifts ,talents, and ideas of others.  Many times this behavior is for their benefit and their benifit alone. This sabotage has subverted the black community bringing untold devastation and disruption for decades!  Because of our  need to outshine and outdo one another borne of the fear that our brother just might get more or have more than us, we have become some savvy , yet sick saboteurs!  

 "How so, Redd?" , you say. Well , let's just look at what the so called "enlightened and educated" do first! As soon as we get a spoonful above a mouthful we put forth a bigger struggle and expend more energy to seperate ourselves from our people than we do to unite with them. Thus we rob our communities by taking what we have to offer elsewhere.  Sadder still is how we try to convince the world that we are better than where we come from versus bettering the places that made us who and what are! (Even Jesus himself sent some of the folks he saved to go back and help the folks where they came from !)

  If that isn't enough there are those among us , in the throes of thier inferiority complexes, put forth even more effort to make sure that they do everything they can to hinder , hurt , and harass to ensure that NOTHING good comes of the sincerest efforts of those who choose to better their lot in life !

 Black folks are a greater asset to our so called  oppressor than we are to ourselves!  Now, lets look at the greatest by product of cowardice and sabotage in our community ,shall we? In our efforts to outshine and outdo one we actually  promote the agenda of those who only have to sit back and watch us do the work of OPRESSION while they reap the benefits! My , how smug, smart, and STUPID are we with our PROUD "PO" asses! ( Yeah, I said PO, because we ain't got no money for real. But that's another lesson for another day!)

 These behaviors stem from a sickness of the soul and are the catalyst for the fires of mistrust and suspicion raging within us !  Suspicions , mistrust , and competition ( for the wrong reasons)compel us to look at each other in fear and say, " Who are you and what are you to me?" Are you my saviour or saboteur Are you one of those slippery people. Only you know the answer.
 Listen at what Pop Staples and the Staples singers say about it by clicking on the video!
Peace and love,
Redd